I would like to shock you before beginning the topic. There is nothing you can do physically to improve your emotional well-being. What I mean by physically is any external solutions you could try. To put it differently, anything other than internal solutions will never work.
If there is any valuable information you need to take from this article, it is “Emotions can’t be soothed with external factors!”
So don’t waste your time consuming substances, watching TV shows, and movies, drinking coffee, quitting your job, taking naps, travelling, chatting, and so on.
Just remember how many times you have tried most of those soothers without effective results. You only had temporary results, and then you shift back to the previous state.
The real problem is that you do not know anything about your emotions, their nature, and how they should be treated. You have been conditioned to run away, reject, refuse, and suppress them once they arise. That is the opposite of how you should treat them. That is why you have never reached emotional stability.
However, there are two internal ways you can employ for emotional health: stop controlling and involve acceptance.
Why You Should Stop Control Your Emotions
Emotions by nature can’t be controlled. They are created to fulfill certain roles such as helping to express oneself and adding reality to your experience.
You can’t imagine expressing yourself without your emotions included. Can you express yourself without these emotions excitement, upset, joy, frustration, anger, sadness, or fear?
YOU CAN’T!
If you believe these emotions are crucial to express yourself, then, why do you think you want to control them?
Can you control your emotions once they arise?
YOU CAN’T!
How many times have you tried to control your emotions but you failed?
MANY TIMES!
Even when you sometimes manage to control them successfully, you only end up blocking yourself.
You know innately that it is futile to control your emotions using external factors.
Owning to the fact that your feelings are trapped inside your body, no external factor can soothe them.
Trying to control the outcome of your inner world will only worsen the situation. Interfering leads to reaction which leads to triggering the brain to generate more unwanted emotions. Any type of external action makes you think and react and this is what your brain needs. That is why you keep trapped in this cycle and get overwhelmed by emotional turmoil.
Additionally, I want you to think about the most wonderful experience you have ever had. Once you have done that, I want you to separate your emotions from this experience, or just imagine how this experience sounds like without emotions being attached to it.
MEANNGLESS! Isn’t that so?
Your experiences without your emotions are lifeless. Your memories and valuable moments depend on emotions to have value.
Thoughts + Images + Emotions = Memories/Experiences
However, the previous equation wouldn’t exist if you didn’t react to that event, situation, or circumstance. Once you react, you have no power to control the torrent of your emotions.
Your emotions are your responsibility. If you take a reaction for granted, you will always suffer. If you keep reacting to whatever events in your life; you will never find peace.
Reaction is a habit. If you manage to overcome this habit, you will not have to control the outcomes.
Why Involving Acceptance Is Important
Acceptance is your best way if you can’t help but react to events, situations, or circumstances.
Acceptance is your best friend if you find yourself controlling your unwanted emotions.
Acceptance is letting everything as it is and allowing your unwanted emotions to express themselves freely. Don’t bottle up your emotions; let them flow like a river.
Here are fun facts about your emotions:
Your unwanted emotions will never kill you.
Your unwanted emotions don’t intend to scare you.
Your unwanted emotions have no harm on you.
I want you to think about the most painful experience you have gone through. I am quite sure at that time; you have felt the most unbearable, intense, harsh, tough emotional pain in your entire life. However, why are you still alive?
If you just ponder a little, you will conclude that your emotions neither kill nor harm you.
So why are you afraid of them?
Why are you scared to feel them?
Why are you reluctant to let them express themselves freely?
Why whenever you experience a pleasant emotion you cling to it and wish it never ends?
Why whenever you experience a disturbing emotion you get so frightened and refuse to feel it?
Why do you discriminate between your emotions?
Why do you label them as negative and positive, wanted and unwanted, or pleasant and disturbing?
If you answer the previous questions properly, you will realize why you always fail to deal with your emotions, you will find the source of your suffering, and you will discern why you can’t release them properly.
Your unwanted emotions demand nothing but to express themselves without any kind of intervention. Once they are fully expressed, they get released from your body, leaving an inner clear space. To ensure this process is successful, you have to involve acceptance.
Conclusion
To truly improve your emotional well-being, it is essential to shift your focus from external solutions to internal practices. Stop trying to control your emotions because doing so is both futile and counterproductive. Emotions are natural responses meant to help us express ourselves and enrich our experiences. When you attempt to control or suppress them, you only create more internal conflict and suffering. Accepting your emotions, on the other hand, allows them to flow freely without unnecessary resistance.
Embrace your emotions as they come, without judgment or fear. Understand that they are a natural part of your human experience and do not pose any real threat to your well-being. By allowing your emotions to exist without interference, you enable them to pass through you naturally, leading to emotional release and inner peace. This process of acceptance and letting go is the key to breaking free from the cycle of emotional turmoil. Remember, emotional well-being comes from within. It’s about understanding, accepting, and harmonizing with your emotions, not controlling or avoiding them. Take responsibility for your reactions and practice acceptance, and you will find that emotional stability and peace are within your reach.
